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Does just showing up make people like you?

Students liked the classmate who showed up most, without ever speaking to her

Moreland & Beach (1992) · Journal of Experimental Social Psychology

She never spoke to anyone. Liking rose with attendance; 130 students rated her from slides.

Exposure had only weak effects on familiarity but strong effects on attraction and perceived similarity. Students liked the woman who had been present most substantially more, despite never having spoken to her.

How it was done

Four women of similar appearance attended a large lecture course 0, 5, 10 or 15 times and never interacted with anyone. At the end of term, 130 students rated them from slides.

What it means

The controlled part is what makes it useful: no conversation, no interaction, nothing to like except presence. The liking still moved.

It is the formation-side counterpart to the reaching-out finding. In both cases people underestimate the social return on low-effort behaviour.

It also explains why friendship gets harder after education ends. School and university manufacture repeated unplanned exposure; most adult life does not.

Two people sitting together on a park bench.
Hafize Balcı / Pexels

What it doesn’t show

A single study from 1992 with one lecture course and one narrow manipulation, rating photographs rather than people encountered in life. The mere-exposure effect is well replicated in general; this specific classroom demonstration is not a large literature on its own.

What Kept does about it

Honestly, very little. Kept cannot manufacture proximity or repeated encounters, and we would rather say that than imply otherwise. It is on this site because it explains the shape of the problem.

Read the source

Moreland & Beach (1992)Journal of Experimental Social Psychology

Confidence: B — a single strong peer-reviewed study, or a consistent multi-study literature. We don’t publish anything weaker than this.

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